Posts Tagged ‘reaching out’

Note: I will be Counting the Omer for a total of 49 days, from Passover to Shavuot or from Slavery to Freedom.  For many, this is simply the Counting the Omer; for me, it is a time to actively reflect on different middot (character traits) that will lead me to my own rebirth.

Middah (character trait) focus: Humility

Humility doesn’t mean one is weak, cowering and silent! Humility involves “limiting oneself to an appropriate space, while leaving room for others.” (Everyday Holiness) Being humble does not come from negating one’s worth. In fact, to be truly humble, one must become aware of one’s own strengths and then choose to use those strengths in a positive way.  www.gojcc.org/jewish-life/jewish-values/tikkun-middot/

Humility is being open to the fact that you don't have to do everything.  Sometimes you need a little light from others to open you up.

Humility is being open to the fact that you don’t have to do everything yourself. Sometimes you need a little light from others to open you up.

Sometimes I tend to take up a lot of space; sometimes I am better at walking gently.  What I love about growing older and perhaps a little wiser is that I now appreciate the silence of my voice.  I am becoming happier to listen and happier to refrain from having the last word.  While I appreciate that I have wisdom at times, I also appreciate that I have so much to learn from others.

Humility for me has also meant learning to ask for help.  Over the past few months, life has thrown me some punches.  Asking people to listen to me as I process my sadness, darkness, and sometimes anger has been humbling.  Asking for friends and sometimes strangers to proof my resumes has also been a learning experience.  Reaching out and asking for what I need has helped me to become more aware of both my strengths and weaknesses.  Each step of the way, friends and acquainces have opened themselves up to helping me; I have never felt like I was imposing on them in any way.  I am extraordinarily lucky woman to walk in the world that I do.

Having humility is actually good for my soul.

May each of us have the humility we need so that we may ultimately thrive.


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Each and every day, I am touched by the people in my life.  I am blessed with friends that touch are an integral part of my life even though they live all over the United States and Canada, some even live on other continents.

Daily reality, however, is a little more daunting. While I have friends all over the globe,  today I am developing new friendships in my new city.  I sometimes wonder if they will be there when challenging times hit; the good news is that I am hopeful.

What I have learned in the past few weeks is how important it is for me to feel that people care.  And in the last two days that was reinforced.  Three new friends opened doors for me to enter.  One just texted me to say ‘Shabbat Shalom’, one asked me to join her and her family for an evening out, and another suffered through hiking with me.  (I didn’t handle the altitudes well or maybe I was just out of shape.:))  The bottom-line is that people have been reaching out.

I love that people are so giving; now it is time for me to give back not only to my new friends, but to the friends I  leave far away.  Life is profoundly busy and I haven’t been as present as I should.  Sometimes I wonder how anyone could call me a friend.

In response to having people reach out to me I decided to do the same for others.  Today, I reached out to two friends; I called them and both connections filled me with joy.  They also seemed to be thrilled.  Reaching out is a short term investment with lasting effects.

As for me, I am feeling really grateful to those that are starting to include me in their lives.

Connections can only happen if we remember to reach out.

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