Posts Tagged ‘humor’

Note: I will be Counting the Omer for a total of 49 days, from Passover to Shavuot or from Slavery to Freedom.  For many, this is simply the Counting the Omer; for me, it is a time to actively reflect on different middot (character traits) that will lead me to my own rebirth.

Humor brought us to this day - Aryeh's graduation from Fairhaven School.

Humor brought us to this day – Aryeh’s graduation from Fairhaven School.

Middah (character trait) focus: Humor

A few hours or maybe a day after Aryeh had been intubated, he stood up for the first time in what felt like forever.  I was so relieved to have my baby (he was 14 years old) alive even if we weren’t yet sure how he would emerge from his brain surgery.  As he stood tentatively for the first time following surgery and the days that followed, I found myself amazed so I said, “I am looking up to you.” He gave me a quizative look, so I continued, “not because of everything you gone through, but because you are now taller than me.  You grew while you were intubated.”

To be honest, there was almost nothing positive about the years that Aryeh struggled for his life.  Each and every day was a living hell, yet we found moments to laugh and moments of light.  I believe that the only reason we were able to emerge from our years of profound darkness was because we laughed.  We laughed at the stupid things that we saw.  We found joy in simple moments with friends.  We had to giggle when having the same meal four nights in a row because there were weeks when no one could figure out what to cook for us and all of our dietary needs.  You should have heard some of the ludicrous things people would say as they tried to process all that was going on with us; they really did want to say the ‘right’ thing.  We laughed because we needed a moment to decompress from all of the travesties that were continuing to emerge.  Finding humor in the most ridiculous moments kept us sane; laughter kept us alive.

Life can be hard, really hard.  May we be blessed to find humor as we navigate all that life has to offer.

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