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(Creating the Toolbox for Healing and Transformations will be a series of blog entries to introduce tools that I have utilized in my healing journey as well as tools I hope to utilize with My Second Foundation,  a non-profit organization for healing and transformation using retreat settings.)

“Good timber does not grow with ease; the stronger the wind, the stronger the trees.”–J. Willard Marriott

Intense pain. Abandonment. Loneliness. Violence. At those moments, breathing hurts. And then comes the blessing. . .

Healing.

Inner peace. Survival. Transformation. Thriving. At these moments, I surge with gratitude. My world didn’t collapse in despair.

Sometimes the collision between memories and healing takes my breath away; sometimes I want to weep intensely and acknowledge the tortuous darkness. And sometimes I want to forget. And still other times, I want to soar and scream out from the mountains that I am a live. I am pure and full of life. No one shattered my spirit; no one drop-kicked me down into the valley, succeeding in my demise. I am a vibrant being.

When the memories bubble up, I struggle. How could I not? Reaching into my soul I have to find the strength to keep moving forward and more importantly to thrive. What I have come to know over the years is that once I acknowledge the very real feelings and sensations around my childhood memories, I can move through them much easier. When I hold them in I sink into a sadness that penetrates the deepest part of my soul.

Last month, I faced some new demons. The person who teased me relentlessly about coffee had no idea initially how crippling his words were; he probably still has no real idea. When I allow myself the room to remember, I can still smell how my mother tormented with coffee grinds among other things.

The beautiful reality is that the memory has now stayed with me for a few weeks, but it hasn’t devastated me. When you are a victim of both domestic violence and other violence, the realizations might return sometimes frequently and sometimes very infrequently. What I have come to learn is that I can decide how I will meet the memory at the door. Mostly, I embrace the memory and try to get to know it and then I release it out of my life. To move through the difficult memories I write, I draw, work with my hands, I cry, I walk, I chant, and sometimes I share my stories. The key to moving forward is consciously choosing to walk through the pain and into the beauty that surrounds me today.

What kind of toolbox works for you?

 

This year, I am birthing a non-profit organization called, My Second Foundation. My Second Foundation will utilize alternative and traditional forms of healing and transformation for adults that have experienced childhood trauma. With the help of many professionals, participants will create their own toolbox for healing and transformation. My plan is to launch this organization over the summer with my first mini-retreat.

For me, life has been a gift, but this realization would not be possible if it weren’t for utilizing writing, drawing, movement, chanting, etc. in my toolbox for healing and transformation. Walking through the many journeys of life is what I do. May we all be blessed to create a toolbox that can accompany this very long trek. These tools are good for living; all of us can emerge from challenging moments by building our own toolbox.

Shadows are possible because of the light that surrounds an area where there is an obstruction. So the goal that I have for myself as I walk is to remember to stay out of my way as I walk into the light. May the same be true for all of us!

With blessings and light,

 

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“The only journey is the one within.”  Rainer Maria Rilke

Our lives are filled with journeys.  Sometimes we move backwards; sometimes we move forwards.  In my experience, very few of us remain stagnant for too long.

With this in mind, I have come to believe in one core guiding principle.  Visualize what you want and ask for your loved ones and friends to do the same.  Believe in your vision and own it as you work towards your goals, your dreams, and your hopes.

Before I go to sleep at night and as I move through my day, I visualize what I want for not only myself, but for those I love.  When someone is going through personal challenges, I visualize the profound work that goes into moving forward and often see those people in a state of well being.

Over the years, I have also learned another core teaching.  Surround yourself with those you believe in and respect.   If that is the starting point, it is easy to visualize healing, new experiences, and an all-around healthy life.  When you start from the premise of a healthy connection, believing that people can succeed in what they need and want is easy.

Our intentions for good have the ability to take us far in this universe.  When we use those intentions to help our loved ones and ourselves, we can truly make a difference.  I have no idea how or why this works, but try it sometime.  You will see what I mean.

Life is full of challenges and gifts; the good news is that we get to decide how we walk through life.  While the outcome isn’t always good or easy, a positive disposition can empower you to new heights.

Each and every step our journeys can be sacred.  When we believe our desires to be good, when we believe that we can change a little piece of the world for good, those journeys become holy.  Believe in yourself and those in your world enough to work through the steps while utilizing visions and intentions.

Deepak Chopra says it beautifully:

“Every action generates a force of energy that returns to us in the like kind. What we sow is what we reap.”

Visioning is an action word.  What do you want? What do you want others to visualize for you?  What can you visualize for those in your life? Everyone can benefit from your visualizing with positive intentions, even yourself.

With blessings and light,

Chava

PS – I am currently creating an organization to create Retreats for Healing and Transformation from Childhood Trauma.  Join me in visualizing that this work can help many people to heal with the support of amazing healers and visionaries and that the organization can become fully self sustaining while compensating the healers to do their work.

“If you will it, it is no dream.” ~Theodor Herzl

 

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