Posts Tagged ‘evolution’

I want to be seen. I want to be heard. I want to be known.

My guess is that most of us feel the same way.

Relationships can be a gift and a challenge. In truth, they are always evolving. . .isn’t everything? When things are good, we are able to coast together with our loved ones, but we don’t always navigate from the same foundation as our lovers and/or friends.

A year ago, my heart was broken by a man I adored. We weren’t partners, but the intensity of our nearly 8.5 year connection dramatically changed leaving me profoundly sad. So far we have found a way to maintain our friendship. For me this was actually not a given, I was too sad for that. Today I am feeling grateful, although it has also been just under a year since I have seen him. I am wondering how it will go if and when we cross paths again.

Given time, healing happens. Hearts mend. Cleansing tears dry. Insight emerges. And moving forward becomes a reality.

While I may miss him deeply, it’s not necessarily the way one would think. It may not even be the way I thought it would be. Metaphorically speaking, I miss his touch and his caress. I miss the intense connection that always felt magnetic.

Our connection was always profound to me – in multifaceted ways. I miss being able to share my soul and the deep connection when he shared his.

Perhaps what I miss most is talking to someone that really connects with me AND craves our connection too.

I miss the friendship of someone who wants to deeply:

See me. Hear me. Know me.

Feeling grateful for the light bulb moment that somehow brought me new insights & some new cleansing tears one year after my heart was broken.

I got this, and I always have!

Onward with love, light, & blessings,


broken hearted

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Middah (character trait) focus: let go and say good-bye

Note: I will be Counting the Omer for a total of 49 days, from Passover to Shavuot or from Slavery to Freedom.  For many, this is simply the Counting the Omer; for me, it is a time to actively reflect on different middot (character traits) that will lead me to my own rebirth.

When we honor ourselves by taking care of ourselves, we are working towards being strong and vibrant people.  Navigating life’s journeys in order to build our character isn’t always easy, yet the benefit is that we develop stronger middot, character traits.

Most of us have people in our lives that aren’t good for us.  They don’t serve us and we don’t serve them; the connection doesn’t feel as healthy as it once did. Their personalities drain our energy; their spirits disolve our inner peace. Sometimes the challenging connections are due to the relationship’s evolution. All relationships change, sometimes we are blessed to change in unison and sometimes not.  In reality, I could be talking about personal relationships, work experiences, congregational memberships.  Nothing ever stays the same.

May each of us be blessed to surround ourselves with people that jazz our soul, honor us for who we are, and nurture who we are while inspiring us to grow; if not, may we have the courage to let them go.

Let go and say good-bye

Let go and say good-bye

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