Posts Tagged ‘elation’

One of my favorite children songs/books of all time is Going on a Bear Hunt by Michael Rosen.  This one story is quite possibly the most promising life-long teachings that we should be passing on to our children and remembering for ourselves.

In each or our lives, we will go through so many transitions, pathways, experiences, journeys.  We can come up for many euphemisms to express our life journeys, but the bottom-line is that we can’t go over it, under it, or around it. . . . .we have to go through it.  In the last months, I have been drawn to the symbol of doorways. Before recently moving from Washington DC to Tucson a friend gave me a door to paint and decorate with sayings and artwork that inspire moving through doorways.  I ended up leaving the door behind because I had not yet had the opportunity to do the work, but perhaps I shall find another door and try again.

This photo of Philadelphia Tunnels/Doorways is given by courtesy of my beloved friend and fellow writer Wicca Davidson. I love how she captured this view. Wow.

Life happens, challenges loom, sadness reigns, joy emerges.  Each of us have  personal stories that help shape the people we are.  When you go through life’s passages, you ultimately come out the other side.  Perhaps you come through the doorway and feel elation, perhaps you feel battered, perhaps you feel success.  Feeling is ultimately a healthy emotion; facing life isn’t always easy, but for the most part it is the right thing to do.

With each breath, I often find myself needing to do reflect on where I am at any given moment.  As someone that now walks through life feeling my emotions intensely, I find myself needing to take deep breaths so that I don’t let any moment guide me to an unsavory place. Bad moments are not bad days; a joyous moment doesn’t necessarily mean a day will be all-around great.  Yet managing these emotions means we might find a day of balance as we navigate our feelings and actively engage in going through life’s different doorways.

Before my older son was born, I did not know physical pain of any kind and I ignored emotional pain.  In spite of not feeling pain, I still appeared somewhat normal, nothing and  nothing stopped me.  And then when I was pregnant, I had a minor accident; I tore the ligaments in my ankle for the third time.  Well there went my running career.  (I was never that fast, but I loved it!!)  That one event transformed me on a personal level in a way that I am not always certain I like.

In the ER the doctor looked at my foot and noticed a really huge problem; little did I know that his findings would alter my life forever.  He told me what was wrong with my foot/ankle and then he added that he had never seen anyone handle this pain in the same way that I did at that time; he said I should have been screaming in pain.  It amazed him so much that he invited other doctors/residents into my little cubicle.  At that point in my life, I did not know from physical pain and I didn’t really deal with emotional pain either.

Years of soul work has changed the reality of nearly 20 years ago, I now feel intensely.  I am fortunate to have the ability to move through most life journeys with calmness.  I might feel intensely, but that never gets in my way of moving through whatever good or challenging situations are being encountered at any given time.

Fifteen years ago and again two years ago, pain came in handy as a means of telling both my doctors and I that I had a major health concerns brewing that would warrant surgery.  Fifteen years ago, the doctor wasn’t a 100% certain that I was in major crisis because he felt I should be feeling more pain.  Both surgeries led to me becoming healthy again.  If the surgeries hadn’t of happened because I didn’t feel pain, my guess is is that I wouldn’t be here today.  (Note: Both surgeries were normal.  If I hadn’t felt pain, I would’t have been able to communicate with the doctors so that they could remedy the situations.)

Remember, the best way to navigate life’s journeys recognize that you can’t go over it, under it, or around it. . . .you got to go through it (the door).

May each of us find the tools we need to make going through life’s doorways as easy as possible.

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