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Reflection Time Selfie

Reflection Time Selfie

If this is your first time reading this series of my blog, please take a moment and read the introduction Elul Journey: A New Year Is Emerging – 5775  http://t.co/Y6vmXdO6GJ

Today is 14 Elul or 16 days until 5775; it is a time to reflect and to choose ways in which I can best move towards the High Holy Days and the days that follow.  While it is not easy to navigate life’s journeys, I always get to decide how to approach my life.  In this moment, I am choosing to walk gently and embrace each step with openness.  As I say this, I also realize that this would be a good time for a reality check.

During each blog post of my Elul Journeys, I will share a poem, a saying, a teaching that has helped me navigate the world.  Let me know what you think!

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The best guide in life is strength. . . . discard everything that weakens you, have nothing to do with it.
~ Quote by Swami Vivekananda

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The messages keep coming to me, this morning I found the quote above by someone who I quoted days ago.  Looks like I need to start reading the work of Swami Vivekananda.   Yesterday I felt drawn to share the Do As One’s Facebook status line on my status line.

Surround yourself. . .

The message is loud and clear.  Surround yourself with people and environments that nurture who you are and then do the work of thriving.

Shemati, I heard.

This is what I call soul work.  Creating a life that honors who you are means you have to make choices.  Who will stay? Who will go? Is this good for you? Can you do the work to make things what you want them to be?

Living consciously means making decisions about who and what fits into your life?  Each and everyone of us is on an evolving journey.  The key word her is evolving; our needs change over time as we have different experiences.

In this moment, I am in the midst of this very journey.  As I actively navigate my own exploration, I am finding it a little daunting to explore all of my feelings, my hopes, my dreams.  With each breath, I am working towards having the integrity I need to thrive and evolve into the healthiest me I can be.

May each of us fill our lives with that which jazzes our soul.

With blessings & light,

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If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page.

~Mark Houlahan

Without a doubt, I have the ability to manage my life; I think you do too.  I always have a choice of how I walk through the journey, even the tough stuff.  I think we all do.

Over the past months, I have shifted the way I walk through the world.  I am getting rid of excess stuff; I am taking better care of me.  I have been exercising, eating better, losing weight, and creating a very powerful vision of what I am hoping to do as part of my role in Tikkun Olam (repairing the world).  I will share more in a blog later this week.

The bottom-line is that moving forward happens better when you consciously and actively do the things that need to be done.  Few people can thrive with clutter, but one of my favorite professors in college blew me away with how productive he was in what I thought of as a cluttered space.  And guess what? He could find ANYTHING in a matter of moments.  Most of us, however, are not so lucky.

Feng Shui is one of the primary teachings that has guided my life; although not actively all the time. 🙂  If you don’t use it, lose it; everything and everyone has it’s place.  I am in the midst of figuring that out what that means.

In order to make room for that which you want in every area of your life, try one or all of these three ideas:

1.   Getting rid of extra baggage

Most of us have some amazing baggage from all the roles we play.  Emails, stuff, paper files, scraps of paper, and mail that needs to be dealt with.  I am on a mission to stop handling emails and paper, etc. more than once.  By the end of the week, it is my hope that all my email boxes are empty and that is how they are at the end of each day.  I am also trying to get rid of what I don’t need.  In truth, I am fairly organized, but I do live with a family and I do have a few shortcomings.  Aren’t we all a work in progress?  😉

2.   Prioritize where your family and friends fit into your life

We only have so much time and it is a challenge to make our schedules work.  So many people are important to us, but if we don’t prioritize our needs, we won’t be able to accomplish the goals we have.  Honoring our relationships in an honest way will help us stay a little more balanced and not feel bad for the limitations that naturally exist.

3.   Make time to do the things that fuel your soul

Nurture yourself by following your rhythms as best you can.  If you need to be outside, go; if you need to be creative, take the time; if you need to read trashy novels, read them.  We all have different things that keep us spiritually grounded.  I chant; I read trashy novels; I write; I dream.  I also love spending time with my guys; I love writing; I love much of my work.  While the house needs to be cleaned, I will be able to manage all that I need to do if I am doing what needs to be done for my soul.

Life is full, really full.  At the same time, we all have the ability to consciously decide how to move through it.  What a gift.

On that note, it is time for me to go try some silent meditation and then to come home and continue decluttering my little haven while making time to hang with Dovi and connect with Aryeh who is away.

 Today is where your book begins; the rest is still unwritten.
~from Natasha Bedingfield’s Unwritten
~written by Natasha Bedingfield, Danielle Brisebois, and Wayne Rodriguez

With light and blessings,


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Have you ever noticed that there is very little black and white in life?

Nothing is simple and very few questions involve one correct answer.  So many of us would like a simple answer to a question, but it just doesn’t seem to happen.  Take multiple choice questions, I was always fairly bright, intellectually speaking, and also fairly limited in finding one correct choice out of four possible options within a multiple choice question.

Relationships are always complicated.  It doesn’t matter if the relationship is with your parents, your children, your partner, or any number of your loved ones; they are just ridiculously complicated.  Recently, I have started to become a bit more aware of how each and every one of my relationships has a powerful energy and then a more challenging energy too.  No relationship is uncomplicated; although, I wish it could be!

As my mother’s 19th yahrzeit, anniversary of her death, emerged recently, I thought about how I could really hate her for the way she abused me during her life.  I do feel a strong sense of ambivalence about my mom, but I am also astutely aware that she was mentally ill and physically sick.  So, I consistently vacillate over how to feel about her memory.  In truth, I am over the anger, but the other feelings are complicated.  Nothing is black and white.

Friendships mean the world to me.  At the same time, I honor the friendship for however long it is there.  For the most part, when it is gone, I say good-bye rather easily.  With the exception of the love between a parent and a child, I don’t believe that most relationships have the capacity to last forever.   Sometimes when you have mentally ill family member, those relationships ebb and flow depending on what’s going on within the family dynamics.  All other relationships take a tremendous amount of work and evolve greatly even when they remain intact.

How many of us love our jobs all the time?  How many of us know that we are in a good position each and every day.  Hopefully, we feel this way some of the time, but much of the time it isn’t so simple.  We have colleagues that drive us crazy; people that need us to perform our tasks the way they want them to be done.  And we have our own dreams and aspirations.  If we are blessed we like our job most of the time; love our job some of the time; and cope with bad days with a sunny disposition.

The dichotomy of sometimes feels like it engulfs each and every moment of my life.  I never feel one-way all of the time.  I constantly evolve even over the course of one day.  This reality is quite ridiculous.  But admitting that within each breath is a wondering person . . . at least at this moment.

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