Posts Tagged ‘conflict’

Note: I will be Counting the Omer for a total of 49 days, from Passover to Shavuot or from Slavery to Freedom. For many, this is simply the Counting the Omer; for others, it is a tool for exploring the kabbalistic teachings in an organized way. For me, it is a time to actively reflect on my Journey Towards Wholeness. The more I am whole, the more free I will become.  [http://t.co/dBPYjDxSGj . . . .]

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Silence Speaks Louder Than Words

In this moment, I can almost hear Joan Rivers asking, “Can we talk?” And I know that my answer would be a definite “NO”.

Most of my life, I have been someone who has felt the need to share my thoughts through writing or talking. But what I have learned over the last year or so is that sometimes it is a good thing to allow for the silence. And if I am really honest with myself, sometimes not.

This moment, I am wanting to focus on the power of silence.

There has been a shift in me that has become more comfortable with the silence. Conflict happens. Relationships evolve. Opinions are diverse. I am slowly losing my need to:

  • always enlighten those that are so certain that I am wrong.
  • navigate the difficult connections when someone believes wronged them in some way.
  • convince others that whatever point I am expressing is far from par for the other person’s thoughts.
  • ____________. (You fill in the blank.)

I have found out that silence can be an amazing tool when used right. I think the line of right and wrong is often intuitive. Currently I am learning to trust my intuition and to allow for the silence without always needed to prove my point.

In the last two weeks alone, I have seen the results of letting conflict go without needing to keep discussing my thoughts and feelings. Sometimes the continuous conversations lead to more and more conflict. Or to a more difficult parting of the ways if that is in fact what is happening. We really don’t need to make endings more difficult. Sometimes relationships or connections have taken their course and the time has come to simply let go.

And then there are the political conversations. Sometimes we can learn from those we are talking to and sometimes all parties are so clear that the discussions will go no where.

Most of us generally know when we are ready to be a partners in the conversation. There are beautiful moments when the power of conversation is palpable. There is absolutely an amazing energy that occurs when adversaries, if you will, can find the rhythm to talk, listen, debate, argue, etc. And there are times when the cutting conversation loses the ability to impact in a good way. Those are the moments that silence has it’s place.

I have begun to fall in love with the quiet.

May each of us allow the power of the silence to serve us in the best possible way.

With love, light, and blessings,

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May you be blessed with an amazing Shabbat and/or weekend! 
May sweetness follow your every step!
May the rhythm of the earth help you get where you want to go!

Sabino Canyon's Road to Blessings

Sabino Canyon’s Road to Blessings

I love giving blessings.  It’s my way of letting people know that I care and that they matter. In truth, all human beings matter to me; some matter a little more.

Without a doubt, I know that life is hard.  While I  get to decide how I will walk through the hard times, that doesn’t mean life isn’t difficult at times.  At any given moment, most of us are struggling with a small or large challenge and if we aren’t, someone we love is.  And if we are fortunate enough to be void of conflict for not only ourselves, but for those we love, there is an entire world struggling with human rights, environmental challenges, and political strife.  The world around often feels dark.

With that in mind, I try to start every interaction with a warm and loving beginning.  I struggle with people that lack a caring nature when you first meet them.  When interactions begin with kindness, they often end with kindness.  So I walk through my life with that realization in my mind.

And within every interaction, I try to remember to bless people.  When giving a blessing I focus on the journey that each person is taking as an individual; I acknowledge where they are.  Sometimes, I don’t speak the blessing out loud; not everyone is comfortable with receiving blessings.  But for me, giving blessings makes the harsh world feel a little brighter and it reminds me that possibilities always surround me and the world I so love.

Try giving someone a blessing sometime; watch their face light up and their expression change.

May we all be blessed as we go on our way.

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